This reminds me of a party I went to last year. I was standing with some friends, chatting, and someone said something that indirectly implied that sexism exists. Some trivial recounting of the basic facts of daily life for most women. Something so mild, so uncontroversial, so mundane that I don’t even remember what it was.
Suddenly, this man standing on the outskirts of our conversational circle piped up with “actually, I think men are more discriminated against than women these days.”
All conversation died.
I turned to look at him and he had this smug, insufferable grin on his face, relishing this moment, expecting us to waste our time and energy refuting this ridiculous thing he had just said.
The Devil’s Advocate was among us.
And, in my mind, I saw the next 15+ minutes playing out. The parade of facts and statistics in a vain attempt to defend ourselves, our gender, and to prove that misogyny is real. The glib, snide denials from some shithead who is getting off on our pain and frustration. The Gish Gallop of bullshit that would take a whole evening to properly dismantle. It was depressing and overwhelming. I hated it. I had to kill it before it began.
So I looked him dead in the eye and I said “OK,“ shrugged, and just walked away.
Nothing I have ever said to another human being has ever been so crushing. As I walked away, I watched the smug grin vanish and confusion and anxiety set in. The rest of the group turned their backs to him and carried on as if he had never spoken - as if he was invisible. He was still staring at me when I walked over to another friend and told her what he had said. I pointed him out for her and made direct eye contact with him while we both laughed.
tl;dr: Don’t feed the troll. Let it perish, cold and hungry, in the wasteland of your indifference. It is weak and you are strong. Live your best life.
This is the most hilarious thing and the best advice I’ve ever read on this damned hellsite.
As someone I respect very much has written on more than one occasion, you don’t have to engage in every argument you are invited to.
i agree that jameela makes great points at times, but she’s also the same woman who thinks the likes of laverne cox are women just because they identify that way. you can’t be a woman who calls out the deep-seated misogyny of society while also saying that any male who “feels” like a woman is one, and his opinions on womanhood automatically become relevant.
I hope you and all TERFs shit your pants in public too.
buddy her thinking trans women are women is a bonus not a flaw
i was expecting something actually bad and harmful when they started talking like “but she thinks vaccines cause autism” not “she knows trans women are women”
Spell to make t*rfs shit their pants in public; like to charge, reblog to cast.
“So I hear you want to free Britney, and I just want to tell you, um, welcome to the disability revolution. We are so glad you’re here!
Do you think it’s wild that she couldn’t remove her IUD? Well, it is still currently completely legal to sterilize women with disabilities. Under law.
Do you think it’s bananas that Britney couldn’t even see her children? Well, it’s not uncommon at all. In fact, mothers with disabilities face removal rates up to 40 to 80 percent.
‘I can’t believe she couldn’t even see her own boyfriend?’ This happens all the time. It is very common for families of people with disabilities to control their relationships for them. That’s why many people with disabilities can’t actually marry. Because they can lose their benefits and their healthcare.
It’s also completely legal to electroshock children, um, if they have have a disability.
So, yes. Free Britney. But let’s also free everybody else. And let’s follow the lead of the disability rights movement, who has been shouting and fighting against these injustices for decades.”
If I were rich here’s what I’d do with my free time okay
Mermaid pranks
Let me explain. So, I’d get one of those super fancy mermaid tails, like those sick as hell silicone ones that has the super long thick tail that uses like, toe pullies and stuff to make the fins move in cool and impossible ways. like this
And I would go all fucking out on this fit okay. We’re talking diving lessons until I can hold my breath for 7 minutes and go deep as fuck. Long hair, starfish, scales up to my tits, those funky contacts that make it so you can see under water, all of it- everything I could to make myself look as “thing of the deep but hot” as possible.
Then, I’d go get some shiny valuable rocks. Pearls, Uncut gems, like super fuck’n nice ones like diamonds and shit, and ofc some gold coins. Then I’d dawn my mermaid fit and hit public waterways. Rivers, beys, lakes, places where people are around and might be swimming, but where I’m not gonna die via boat propeller, and not super crowded areas where a lot of people are swimming.
Then I just prank people by poking my head out of the water and surprising them, then I motion them closer and reach into my hair or satchel or something and give them a fucking emerald, smiling all big the whole time then I just- swim the fuck away.
What the fuck they gonna do now!? Keep it as a fun memory of that time a fuck’n mermaid larper gave them a shiny rock? Never know it’s actually valuable? Or do they take it to a jeweler and find out it’s real? How the fuck are they gonna explain that. They gonna tell the jeweler a fuck’n mermaid gave it to them?! I think the fuck not.
Gonna pop up at the peir and smile at people and give gold coins to whoever stops. Kids are gonna freak. Put a little wonder back in the world. Flirt with pretty girls. Swim down rivers, pop up and surprise some old lady sitting by the water and give her an uncut diamond then swim away without a word.
Get a reputation as the weird lesbian mermaid who gives out precious gems and never speaks then suddenly stop without warning for like three years to give people time to forget me then do it all again.
If it’s a kid, and only the kid has seen you, act horrified that you’ve been found.
Beg them to keep you a secret, and give them the jewel/coin in exchange.
i swear to god ultra rich people are so fucking boring with their mansions and yachts. ThiS is what i wanna see in the world. Where are the superheroes? The masquerade balls? WHO is gonna invent real farie wings that let you fly??
Absolutely seething over the interior of this house. The bland colors…the entry room…it just sucks. Only redeemable thing is the view, but it still almost feels like a fish tank for humans
“i have never sat on this couch before. i have also never eaten at this table, ever.”
wonder what her parents do for a living that they have bulletproof windows
One of the clearest contrasts you’ll see between the working class and the bourgeoisie is encapsulated in this video. The rich own more than they’ll ever use – literally, she says that she’s never even sat on the couch or at the dinner table, and this kind of thing isn’t uncommon among the rich. Working-class people actually use the stuff they buy and they have a far better sense of the qualitative value of things.
And yeah we reiterate the “this house is an ugly fish tank for humans” sentiment above lol
“Trying out sex” is not how you confirm or deny your asexuality. It might help you decide whether or not you enjoy sex. It might even help you decide which gender you prefer to have sex with.
But it will not, under any circumstances, confirm someone’s asexuality.
Because asexuality is not about whether or not you like sex. It’s about whether or not you experience sexual attraction.
Stop telling asexual people to “give it a try.”
Stop questioning asexuals based on their sexual history or lack thereof.
I have cochlear implants and I can only buy parts to fix them or upgrade then from 1 corporation bc of tech exclusivity. upgrades to get new processors for both ears cost $23k & insurance only covers 90% (and it’s “good” insurance)
cyberpunk dystopia is already here for the disabled. fight for universal healthcare, fight against capitalism NOW.
For real, it’s nearly every disabled person who deals with this shit. Artificial limbs cost more than many make in a year. Medications you need to literally stay alive, that keep your heart beating or your lungs breathing, your body processing sugar which is in everything, that keep your hormones’ regulated. Items that let you see or hear or walk.
This is literally reality already for millions of people, including people you know. “Don’t cry to me when your ability to run is behind a paywall’ my ability to breathe, see, concentrate, and sleep already are. Help us. Fight against it NOW and stop joking about how it’s a hypothetical future because we’ve been suffering, we are suffering, and we’re dying and we didn’t make any choice.
Current Mood: Crying While Watching Blue’s Clues Pride Song
It’s sung to the tune of The Ants Go Marching One By One song!!!
Another reason why Blues Clues and You is like the best reboot ever
some highlights from the notes 💖
Stop.
Oh, my god. I’m already crying with asexuality included.
Now you’re telling me other groups feel the same way?
There’s legit tears down my face.
-fae
The more you look at it the more you love it.
The drag queen is holding a BLM sign.
There’s a Hijabi on the all races float (and if you look closely at the flag, I think the owl is indigenous).
One of the babas is disabled.
They could have just stopped at including all the flags.
But no. They said “I don’t care if they’re animals. I’m going to make it very clear we’re including all races and disabled people.”
And it’s such small details, but they’re there.
-fae
Found 2 more hidden BLM flags.
And I consider myself pretty versed in queer identities, but even I don’t know what some of these flags are.
Which really shows that you’ve never had the opportunity to feel validated like this, and that makes me love it even more.
-fae
I already made my own post about this as well, but it seems like a good idea to add the info on this post too, since it’s really taken off. There are (at least) 30 different flags plus assorted other representation. They include:
Pride, Progress Pride, BLM Progress Pride, Lesbian, Gay Man
Trans, Nonbinary — Dolphin wheelchair user, Top surgery beaver
Her tuition so damn high she can wear whatever tf she wants
Spite goals
There’s a better thing to her story. She CONTINUED her thesis in her underwear and afterward her professor said “what would your mother think wearing those kinds of clothes”
And she responded “my mother’s a feminist also a gender and sexuality studies professor. She’s fine with my shorts”
i think the best part is that a majority of the class also stripped with her in solidarity
Just to give a little more perspective after reading the story:
The sequence of events is a little jumbled in the telling above. The actual chastising from the teacher came days before the woman’s thesis, during a practice run of her presentation. This was not a spur-of-the-moment thing where she just whipped off her clothes for the sake of being angry. Chai took the time to think things through before deciding this was the way she wanted to protest. She used critical thinking and level-headedness to decide instead of becoming volatile and aggressive, she would choose non-violent protest.
I just don’t like the way the story’s being told by others because it makes her come across as “overly-emotional” and “erratic” (as women often do in the media, because it’s easier to attribute extreme action to “hysteria”), whereas in actual news reports, she had time to think about her decision and choose the best way to handle what happened to her.
but… they’re not. Trans is short for “transitioning” which is to say you go from one gender to the other. Non-binary people are not transitioning to another gender. They’re just not moving from one to another.
trans is not and has never been short for transitioning you dumb hoe
trans is short for transgender dumbass
also for those who don’t get it, the creator of the trans flag herself (monica helms, to be exact) has stated verbally, herself, that the white stripe in the flag was for nonbinary individuals + that nonbinary ppl are absolutely trans
if you exclude nonbinary folks and tell us we’re not trans go fuck yourselves
theres a hole in the wall in my brothers’ room because they were fighting (for fun not anger) in there once and one of them knocked the other into the wall so hard his head made that hole, so they put two small skeletons in there for decoration
they tapped up the “décor” sign up because according to them the skeleton is named
décor
and the one underneath him is his husband. also worth noting that they found 2 dollars in there the other day
